Why Setting boundaries in Adult Relationships are Important

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Cheating in an Adult relationship isnt a crime. But yes it constitutes a toxic relationship which can affect your emotional health very badly.

Being progressive and modern means that you accept people for who they are … and people cheat … thats normal and its human … and its human to make mistakes …

Its good to see we have progressed as a society and we can forgive people for who they are and for their mistakes …

Its okay to forgive someone who cheated on you once or twice …

But its NOT okay to be with a partner who is not completely yours !

Its devaluing to you emotionally and psychologically … and being treated badly and being devalued has effects on you that cannot be seen physically but still affect you on emotional and psychological level …

Being emotionally healthy is as important as much as being physically healthy …

A toxic adult relationship with lack of proper boundaries has many adverse effects …

Learning to say NO …

If you are in a relationship where your partner loves someone else. You need to understand this is NOT okay.

Despite how much technologically advance we human beings have become but we are still made to be in a relationship with only one person. This is how nature has designed us and we belong to the nature …

Polygamy is not cool and progressive … it gives you freedom that appears like freedom initially but eventually in the long run it takes away all of your freedom away from you !

Its like drugs and smoking which appears really cool when its new … but later in life … it fucks you really bad …

How cheating destroys you from Inside ?

Its not the just the cheating that destroys you. Every relationship where your self-worth is compromised destroys you from inside.

Cheating and polygamy are just one of the MANY different kinds of relationships where your self-worth is compromised.

How to deal with it ?

If you find yourself in a love triangle kind of relationship or in a relationship where your partner is cheating on you ! Let us see how to deal with it !

Humanity tells you to forgive others … so it is human to forgive but forgiving someone is not the same as compromising your values and your self-worth.

If you forgive others you become a good human being. But if you accept a compromise with your self-worth you become a doormat.

It is very important and essential to understand the difference between being a good human being and being a doormat.

Try to be a good human being but dont try to become a doormat.

If you are a women whose partner is cheating on her … dont live in a belief that boys are just being boys and men cheat. If your partner truly loved you he would have never cheated on you in the first place … cheating by a man doesnt make is acceptable just because that person is a male.

Finding true love is not difficult … the only reason why people dont find love is because they dont consider themselves worthy of true love …

… by accepting to be in a love triangle or compromised love relationship you unconsciously agree to believe that you are not worthy of love … which further attracts more compromised relationships in your life …

If you are a guy whose girlfriend cheats on him … it is okay to forgive your girlfriend but you should have the balls to walk away from that relationship …

The effects of love triangle on the other side

If you cheat on someone … you are not just ruining other lives but you are ruining your life also because you dont understand how its like to be in a true loving realtionship. You dont understand true love …

You dont know how it is like to love and be loved truly … you lack that authentic experience … in life …

We treat ourselves the way we treat others … if you treat others badly you unconsciously give yourself permission to be treated badly by other people … and we lose our immunity because we lose our ability to differentiate between true love and compomised love … … this happens unconsciously even if you are not aware of it on a conscious level …

Lessons to Learn

having no love in life is much better than having a bad love … or compromised love …

… i am not just talking about adult relationships but all other kinds of relationships … even the business relationships and friends and family relationships … being in one compromised realtionship leads to other compromised realtionships and invites the lack of boundaries in all other aspects of your life …

Learning to say NO is important and required to preserve your emotional health …

… finding love is not difficult … you attract what you believe … if you believe you are not worthy of love … you will manifest that in a form of finding yourself in a compromised love relationships … if you belive you are worthy of love … you will manifest that also …

Bad emotional health leads to depression and that depression eventually ruins all other aspects of your life …

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